Validation

Have you ever tried so hard to impress someone who seemed beyond impressing? This experience can be quite frustrating. And as this experience characterizes many relationships, many of them are marked with the strain and frustration of one or both partners trying (and failing) to meet up to certain expectations, which may be a bit understandable; many don’t know who they really are or what they want from life.

How can you then please people who aren’t sure of what they want?

Many times we carry this mindset into our relationship with God. We try to be model children so we can get a blessing or some kind of validation that many never got from their earthly fathers. But this is not the kind of relationship that God calls us to have with Him.

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ…”

Ephesians 1:3 (NKJV)

“All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ.”

Ephesians 1:3 (NLT)

The word ‘has’ is a present perfect tense, denoting an action which started and was completed in the past but still with a link to the present. The action of God blessing His children is accomplished the day that child became saved. Every child of God IS blessed already. This is our reality, and we must walk in it.

The phrase has blessed is translated from the Greek word ‘Eulogeo’ which, in addition to ‘blessed’, also means ‘to praise’ or ‘to speak well of.’

God thinks good of you. God speaks well of you. God thinks you’re awesome. God calls you blessed. God calls you righteous. God calls you His beloved. He does not understand why you strive for His love when He has already given it to you.

Even if your circumstances do not seem like that of a blessed person, you must hold onto the good things that God has spoken concerning you. You must believe in your heart – and confess with your mouth – the blessings of God concerning you.

God is not withholding His love until He sees that you’re a ‘good child.’ He has given you His love already, and He expects that your response to His love (and blessing) would be a life that obeys Him. A life that does good deeds, not because of blessings to come, but because of the blessings it has received. A life that loves, because it was first loved.

You have all of God’s love, validation, and attention. Understand that this is your reality and walk in it.