It is said that you can’t stand out by joining the crowd, and yet, many people prefer to blend in. One of the reasons for this is that many are not informed that the God of variety created us differently so the world would have diverse flavours and to keep each of us balanced in our temperaments.
According to Tim Lahaye, there are 4 basic temperaments; Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholy and Phlegmatic. (You can do yourself good by getting his book, ‘The Spirit Filled Temperament’). We all primarily fall into one of these 4 categories, and then we have one or more secondary temperament(s).
Now, this doesn’t mean one necessarily has to or will display all the attributes of their primary temperament, but you’ll notice there practice many of it most of the time.
Consequently, you find a strong-willed person (one of the defining traits of a Choleric) getting irritated by a laid-back person (which is more the disposition of a Phlegmatic), and etcetera.
But just imagine: If the world was filled only with introverts, it would have been too silent and if it had been only for extroverts, it would have been too noisy. God in His wisdom made us to need ourselves for ‘Balance’.
1. If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies,
2. Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind.
3. Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.
4. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.Philippians 2:1-4(KJV)
Don’t ever change or try to hide your self. Instead, boldly express your strengths and work (with the help of the Holy Spirit) to improve your weaknesses. Keep doing that good thing! Those who complain are few, those who are blessed are the majority.
They might not like your potential now because it is still in crude form, but when you finally rise to the top through consistent building, your complainers will tell your story in a way they can be linked to you by force, in a “We knew him/her that time” way.
So be encouraged to live with people in this understanding, and learn to correct their excesses in love, and not by shutting them down, as you also receive grace and patience to grow, and to shine your light.